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Brad Upton shakes hands with Melvin Garreau after Garreau\u2019s speech Thursday evening at the Veterans Center in Eagle Butte. Upton is the fifth great-grandson of General James W. Forsyth, who led the U.S. Calvary during the Wounded Knee Massacre in 1890. His visit was highly-controversial and conflicted many across Cheyenne River. Melvin Garreau is a descendent of those who were massacred at Wounded Knee. His grandmother and her brother Blue Arm were the sole survivors of a family of nine.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

EAGLE BUTTE \u2013 Word spread throughout the oyate that a wasicu man named Brad Upton would be visiting Cheyenne River on November 7-8 to meet with the descendants of Wounded Knee survivors. Upton\u2019s fifth great-grandfather was Major General James W. Forsyth who commanded the 7th Calvary and led the troops to massacre over 250 unarmed women, children and men at Wounded Knee Creek on December 30, 1890. Among the dead Lakota laid Mnicoujou itancan Hehaka Gleska (Spotted Elk). Those who survived the onslaught of bullets escaped with their wounded and made their way to modern-day Takini, whose namesake means survivor.
\nThe history of the Wounded Knee Massacre and General Forsyth\u2019s involvement was not hidden in the family, said Brad. At age 16, a family member showed him photos of frozen corpses, including Spotted Elk. Even that young, Brad said he knew what his grandfather had done was horrific.
\nBrad, a Buddhist, said he spent over 50 years of his life struggling with his family\u2019s history and believed that his ancestor\u2019s actions caused generational \u201ckarmic debt\u201d which resulted in alcoholism, abuse and loss.
\nBy chance, said Brad, his daughter knew Paul Soderman, who was a descendant of Brigadier General William S. Harney, who commanded troops to slaughter 86 Lakota and capture of 70 women and children during the Blue Water Creek Massacre in Nebraska on September 3, 1855.
\nPaul had worked with Basil Braveheart (Oglala) to change the name of Harney Peak, named after the general, to Black Elk Peak. The pair were successful in their mission and the name was changed in September 2016.
\nWith Paul\u2019s connections to the Lakota people, he listened to Brad\u2019s story and wishes to start a journey of healing. Paul said he told him that the journey would be a life-long one. The two set out together and with guidance from Braveheart, eventually connected with Heartbeat at Wounded Knee President Manny Iron Hawk.
\nPlans were made for Brad to come to Cheyenne River to meet with Wounded Knee descendants and to perhaps address the Cheyenne River Sioux Tribal Council. Flyers were posted, announcements were made on the radio, a story ran in the paper of Brad\u2019s scheduled visit.
\nTwo days before the event, the Sunkwanka Agli Riders began riding their horses from the community of Bridger, the land of Spotted Elk. The ride to Eagle Butte would take two days, and on both days, the weather was brutally cold.
\nOn Thursday afternoon, the temperature was 16 degrees but with 12-mile per hour winds, the air was five degrees. Slowly, Sunkwanka Agli Riders made their way down Highway 63, riding in prayer and meditation. Around 4 p.m., the group arrived at the Veteran Center. There was no big celebration or welcome, just a continued state of prayer.
\nCommunity members began to arrive at the center and take their seats in the chairs that were placed in a circle. The atmosphere was heavy with anticipation and tension of a conflicted people.
\nTears were shed, vulgarities were said, and threats were spoken among some as they waited for the stranger to enter the building. But so too were words of encouragement, support and prayer spoken by others. Only time would tell what kind of welcome Brad Upton would receive.
\nThe doors opened and entered Brad and Paul. The room was silent as the men began shaking hands with the people. Whispers could be heard, but some glares were louder. As the men made their way around the room, chatter began and there was no outburst, only handshakes and unspoken confliction.
\nManny Iron Hawk welcomed the men into the center of the circle and shook their hands. More people began to arrive and more chairs were brought out to accommodate everyone. Brad and Paul took their seat to the north, facing the people as Manny began his welcome address.
\n\u201cOur history is not written in books. It is not taught in our schools. We descendants know our stories. My mother knew our stories and when she talked about them, she would get sad, and I would feel that sadness too. I don\u2019t want my kids to be sad. I want us to heal. We have been waiting over one hundred years to do this. Now is the time,\u201d said Manny.
\nSpiritual leader Ivan Looking Horse then spoke. \u201cBrad is very courageous to come here to Cheyenne River where there are four bands. Forgiveness, we lost a lot of relatives down south at Wounded Knee. We lost a lot of people who come from these four bands. Tonight we are going to do a ceremony and share a meal with everyone,\u201d he said before he performed a prayer and song.
\nPaul then spoke, introducing himself and sharing his personal experience and journey of working with Basil Braveheart to change the name of Harney Peak. He also said that he knew the Little Thunder family and acknowledged naca Harry Little Thunder who was sitting in the circle. He called the Little Thunders his family and said that Brad\u2019s journey of wokintunze was just beginning.
\nBrad then took to the microphone and introduced himself. He became emotional, clasped his hands as he thanked everyone. His speech was brief and there were whispers among the crowd as he sat back down.
\nThe tension in the room was palpable.
\nIvan spoke again and talked about how years of genocide and historical trauma have resulted in poverty, loss of land, culture, language and the traditional structure of the tiospayes. But with that loss comes hope and the chance to heal.
\n\u201cWe always come together and say what we want for our future. On Cheyenne River, we have four bands who have gone through a lot. It\u2019s very hard to forgive. It\u2019s one of the hardest things to do in this world. It takes a lot of prayer to get into that frame of mind. These are stepping stones to make the peace. The rest of the world is looking at the Lakota nation. We are the keepers of Grandmother Earth. We can show the world that we can do these things with a good heart,\u201d said Ivan.
\nFormer CRST Chairman and respected elder Melvin Garreau who is a descendant of those massacred at Wounded Knee was helped to the center of the circle. There, he sat and spoke in Lakota and then in English. Looking at Brad, he said, \u201cYou are very brave. You are not in an encampment of enemies. You are in a camp of people trying to find their way.\u201d
\nIn an instant his words uplifted the spirit of the people, and sounds agreements echoed throughout the room. Brad approached Melvin, shaking his hand and emotionally thanked him.
\nNaca Harry Little Thunder also spoke about historical trauma and the failure of educational systems in America to teach history accurately, particularly, history of indigenous people.
\n\u201cWe all know and grew up with stories of Wounded Knee. Why wasn\u2019t it taught in school? If America taught the real history, there would be no racism. They would have no fear. They don\u2019t know who we are. If you want to know who we are, come talk with us. We are strong people of the land,\u201d said Harry.
\nEmanuel Red Bear was invited to speak and he said that when Paul and Brad first entered the building, he touched them and counted coup on them.
\n\u201cWhen I heard this man was coming, I had thoughts about forgiveness and I had thoughts about madness. You descendants, you deserve this apology. Your relatives didn\u2019t deserve to be killed that day- those women and children and unarmed men, under that flag of truce. Only one man had a conscious to come here to ask for forgiveness. There needs to be more for all the history that was done to our Lakota people,\u201d said Emanuel.
\nOther tribal members spoke, including Marlis Afraid of Hawk, who shared stories about her grandfather, Richard, a survivor of the Wounded Knee Massacre who spent his life advocating for the revocation of Medals of Honor given to 20 soldiers who participated in the killing. Continuing her grandfather\u2019s work, she is also one of the proponents of the Remove the Stain Act, legislation which aims to do just that.
\nCherry Creek resident Monty Condon also spoke and talked about the annual Wounded Knee Memorial ride and said that in 1990 in the fourth year of the ride, a ceremony was performed and the spirits revealed that was to be the last ride. He encouraged the people to think about the ceremony and putting an end to the annual ride. He then shared a song about Spotted Elk.
\nBridger resident and Sunkwanka Agli rider Roderick Dupris then spoke, and unwrapped a bundle, revealing a ghost dance shirt. \u201cThis shirt is small, it will only fit a child. This is why they killed us,\u201d he said.
\nRoderick also talked about the sacrifices that the Sunkwanka Agli Riders make each year as they ride in remembrance and prayer, and shared stories about the group\u2019s late founder, Byron Buffalo.
\nThe time for ceremony was near, and Ivan announced that both Brad and Paul had agreed to give a flesh offering. The drum group sang prayer songs as Ivan prepared his canupa. With the help of Moreno Waloke, flesh was first taken from Paul, then Brad. Both were offered sage to put over their wounds and help stop the trickle of blood. Their offering was wrapped in red cloth and given back to them with instructions to go on a hill and pray.
\nA wiping-of-the-tears ceremony followed for all who wished to participate. Songs and the beating of the drum reverberated throughout the room as sage filled the air. The men whooped and the women trilled.
\nWhen all prayers were completed and ceremonies ended, everyone was invited to shake hands with Brad and Paul, and a meal was served. After dinner, Brad was presented with a star quilt.
\nOn the second day of their visit, the pair left Eagle Butte and drove to Bridger, the land of Spotted Elk, to meet with the descendants of the Wounded Knee Massacre. They drove through Cherry Creek, touring the homelands of the Mnicoujou and of Spotted Elk\u2019s people.
\nAt the UCC church in Bridger, community members congregated and awaited for the arrival. Some in the audience had been at the Veterans Center the night before and shared with others what had happened there.
\nIn late afternoon, Brad and Paul entered the church and all eyes were on them as they made their way through the room, shaking hands. Bridger resident Debbie Day did a welcome address and opening prayer.<\/p>\n

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Sunkwanka Agli Riders ride along Hwy. 63 in 5 degree weather. The group started in Bridger on Nov. 6 and arrived in Eagle Butte the next day. (EAGLE PHOTOS BY ALAINA BEAUTIFUL BALD EAGLE)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Brad then spoke, introducing himself before he shared his family\u2019s connection to Wounded Knee, and the lifelong struggle he has had with his ancestor\u2019s actions. He said that it was his hope that his visit would be the beginning of healing and wellness for the Lakota people and for himself.
\n\u201cI was very ashamed. All my life I prayed to heal from the genocide that my ancestor inflicted on you. I realized that I could not forgive my ancestor for what he did to your ancestors and your community. That is why I am here- to say that I want to return many times. I know that there are a lot of people who aren\u2019t ready to forgive and that\u2019s okay. I ask for your guidance. I can\u2019t do any of this without your guidance and wisdom,\u201d said Brad.
\nThe floor was opened for questions and comments. Dena Waloke asked if Brad would go on next month\u2019s Wounded Knee memorial ride, to which Brad responded that he thought it was too soon for that.
\n\u201cI don\u2019t want to come in a bluster. There are many who are conflicted. I can do something less controversial, and with your guidance, we can think of something,\u201d said Brad.
\nRoderick Dupris then spoke about the importance of the ride and said that if the people want this to be the last year or riding, he will respect their wishes and make is so with the Sunkwanka Agli Riders. He also talked to Brad and shared his feelings about his visit to Cheyenne River.
\n\u201cI can\u2019t accept your apology because you didn\u2019t do it, but I can accept you. I can be your friend. That is more than an apology,\u201d said Roderick.
\nDena spoke again about her late brother, Byron Buffalo, and his lifelong work within the community to heal the wounds and fill the void of unhealed sorrows of the massacre.
\n\u201cByron would\u2019ve been happy that you have come to apologize,\u201d she said before presenting Brad and Paul with necklaces.
\nA meal prayer was performed and food was served. Brad and Paul sat at a table, visiting with community members and learning about the families who were present, and of families who had lost ancestors in the massacre.
\nRemi Bald Eagle then spoke, \u201cThe loss of relatives who should be here with us, haunts us in the grief and sorrow we carry with us, and in the shame, guilt and grief that you carry with you. We cannot forgive you anymore than we can stop grieving. But you can use your words to address the wounds of history. Tell the truth of what happened and of who we are. Your words and your positions have as much power as your relatives did in those days. Your voice can be a cannon, fired in the defense of truth.\u201d
\nThe room filled with agreeing whoops and trills. After tears were shed among the visitors and community members, Brad passed out braids of sweetgrass with yellow and white prayer ties attached to them. The day wrapped up with hugs, handshakes, invitations to the men, and photos. Before they left, Brad and Paul said that their drive home would be filled with prayer and meditation of all that occurred during their visit, and they thanked everyone for their words, hospitality and time.<\/p>\n

(Contact Alaina Beautiful Bald Eagle at alaina@westrivereagle.com<\/a>)<\/p>\n

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Brad Upton shakes hands with Melvin Garreau after Garreau\u2019s speech Thursday evening at the Veterans Center in Eagle Butte. Upton is the fifth great-grandson of General James W. Forsyth, who led the U.S. Calvary during the Wounded Knee Massacre in 1890. His visit was highly-controversial and conflicted many across Cheyenne <\/p>\n

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