{"id":7648,"date":"2018-09-26T13:18:11","date_gmt":"2018-09-26T18:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/are-you-angry-could-it-be-sadness-could-it-be-anxiety\/"},"modified":"2018-09-26T13:18:13","modified_gmt":"2018-09-26T18:18:13","slug":"are-you-angry-could-it-be-sadness-could-it-be-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/are-you-angry-could-it-be-sadness-could-it-be-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Angry? Could It Be Sadness? Could It Be Anxiety?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Therapist: \u201cBesides angry, how else do you feel when people disrespect you?\u201d<\/div>\n

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Client: \u201cSad.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhere does that sadness come from?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cIt\u2019s always been there.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhat\u2019s the worst part?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cLike I don\u2019t count, like I\u2019m not important.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cLike you were invisible? Some use anger to get the attention they want. Do you sometimes feel life is unfair to you, that you aren\u2019t worth caring about, that you aren\u2019t significant?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cYes.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhen did you get over it?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cI guess I never did.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cThen you cannot have a very high opinion yourself. Could it be that you are angry at yourself for being so vulnerable, for letting people use you, for not standing up to them?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cThat makes sense.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWould you say you take betrayals personally?\u2019<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cWouldn\u2019t you?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cI would. For many people, when they feel anger in the present, it brings them back unresolved feelings from the past. When someone makes you angry in the present, are you inclined to take it personally, as if it were a reflection on your worth as a person?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cYes.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhat is it called when things in the present ignites unresolved emotions from the past?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cI call it losing my mind.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cThat\u2019s one way to put it. I call it anger. You are angry because this current painful experience has tapped into a pool of unresolved anger from the past. Some may say to themselves, \u2018I am stupid for letting it happen, I should have seen it coming, I should have stood up for myself.\u2019 This is called shoulding on yourself. It makes you feel guilty. This combination overloads your body, and you erupt like a volcano. This whole process is taking place below conscious awareness where you can\u2019t process it, let alone manage it in a mature, appropriate way. When this happens, you don\u2019t have the anger anymore, the anger has you.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u2018Yes. I feel like a should know better.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cIt\u2019s like an old wound that opens up and bleeds. Do you still feel like a victim waiting for another attack to happen?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cStory of my life.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cDid you feel out of control?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cYes.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cHow do you feel when you\u2019re out of control?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cIt\u2019s scary.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhat is that scary feeling called?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cScared.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cIt\u2019s called anxiety. Is anxiety painful?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cYes.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cYou are in pain most of the time. All this pain makes you angrier than you need to be. Do you take it personally when someone calls you a jerk, keeps you waiting twenty minutes, criticizes your performance on the job?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cYes, of course. It makes me angry.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cHow angry are you?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cSometimes I get very angry!\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cDo you think you might be angrier than you need to be?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cI never thought about it. I thought my anger was justified.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cWhere does your anger come from?\u201d<\/div>\n
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Client: \u201cNowhere.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cIt seems like nowhere, but it\u2019s been stored in your memory bank all these years. When something makes you angry in the present, it triggers this store of unresolved anger from the past. It makes you angrier than you need to be in the present. You are out of control, over the top. Your anger is in control now, not you. It overrides your adult judgment, and provokes you to say and do things you wouldn\u2019t otherwise.\u201d<\/div>\n
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Therapist: \u201cBesides angry, how else do you feel when people disrespect you?\u201d Client: \u201cSad.\u201d Therapist: \u201cWhere does that sadness come from?\u201d Client: \u201cIt\u2019s always been there.\u201d Therapist: \u201cWhat\u2019s the worst part?\u201d Client: \u201cLike I don\u2019t count, like I\u2019m not important.\u201d Therapist: \u201cLike you were invisible? Some use anger to get <\/p>\n

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