{"id":7956,"date":"2019-06-12T12:19:23","date_gmt":"2019-06-12T17:19:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/relationship-doubts-understanding-your-partner\/"},"modified":"2019-06-12T12:19:23","modified_gmt":"2019-06-12T17:19:23","slug":"relationship-doubts-understanding-your-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/relationship-doubts-understanding-your-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Doubts: Understanding Your Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The more aligned a couple is on certain crucial dimensions, the better off they will be in the long term.<\/p>\n

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Below are questions that can help to start thinking about how compatible a couple is:
\n\u2022 Do we expect our partner to tell us the amount of money spent on a shopping spree or an outing with friends?
\n\u2022 Does flirting constitute infidelity?
\n\u2022 How much free time spent away from one another is acceptable?
\n\u2022 Do we expect our partner to share all their secrets with us?
\n\u2022 Are friends of the opposite sex acceptable to us and at what level of intensity?
\n\u2022 Is there a difference between a \u201cwhite lie\u201d and dishonesty?
\n\u2022 Do we feel comfortable being vulnerable with our partner?
\n\u2022 When do we feel pushed away from our partner?
\n\u2022 When do we feel that making love with our partner is a way to connect and not just a physical exercise?
\n\u2022 Do we feel our levels of desire are similar?
\n\u2022 Can we readily express our needs comfortably and safely?
\n\u2022 What are our expectations of a successful partner?
\n\u2022 What sacrifices regarding our home, finances, careers or leisure activities are you willing to make for our partner?
\n\u2022 What values do we model?
\n\u2022 What family traditions do we want to carry on and what new ones do we want to create?
\n\u2022 What do we want our savings plan look like?
\n\u2022 How do we determine what our will be?
\n\u2022 Will one partner have more financial control than the other?
\n\u2022 What are our spending priorities?
\n\u2022 How do we create value besides earning income?<\/p>\n

Discuss the following tasks and who is expected to be the lead partner and\/or how would they be shared:
\n\u2022 Parenting
\n\u2022 Producing revenue; does one person\u2019s career take precedence over the others
\n\u2022 Food Preparation
\n\u2022 Cleaning
\n\u2022 Financial issues; paying bills, creating a budget
\n\u2022 Laundry
\n\u2022 Home maintenance<\/p>\n

Discuss the following hypothetical decisions.
\n\u2022 Accepting a work promotion vs. living in a less desirable geographic location
\n\u2022 Quitting a job due to dissatisfaction vs. staying for financial security
\n\u2022 Taking a walk together vs. going on a shopping trip
\n\u2022 Going on a recreational trip vs. going to visit family
\n\u2022 Paying for our child\u2019s education vs. taking a second job
\n\u2022 Having a night out with friends vs. a night with just the two of us
\n\u2022 Visiting a sentimental places vs. visiting a new location
\n\u2022 Adhering to a budget vs. impulse spending
\n\u2022 Cuddling for the night vs. making love
\n\u2022 Watching TV vs. doing a project around the house
\n\u2022 Spending the holidays with one side of the family vs. the other side<\/p>\n

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