{"id":8047,"date":"2019-07-24T12:21:49","date_gmt":"2019-07-24T17:21:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/why-its-unhealthy-to-be-angry\/"},"modified":"2019-07-24T12:21:49","modified_gmt":"2019-07-24T17:21:49","slug":"why-its-unhealthy-to-be-angry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/why-its-unhealthy-to-be-angry\/","title":{"rendered":"Why It\u2019s Unhealthy to be Angry"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re learning to manage your anger in a nonaggressive way, the first steps consist of recognizing how anger feels for you, and getting to know the situations that produce it. <\/span><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s easier to take these first steps if you can become aware of your anger\u2019s symptoms.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cognitive Signs <\/span><\/p>\n

Cognitive signs have to do with the thoughts you have in response to an anger- provoking event. When you\u2019re angry, you may think that a friend\u2019s neutral comments are critical of you, or you may think that others\u2019 actions are demeaning, humiliating, or controlling. Some people call thoughts like these negative self-talk because they\u2019re like a conversation you\u2019re having with yourself about the world and other people. Closely related to this kind of self-talk are vengeful fantasies of defeating a perceived enemy and painful images of betrayal by someone you love. Thoughts, self-talk, fantasies, and images like these can make your anger escalate very rapidly, and they\u2019re almost always focused on other people. But taking the focus off yourself puts control of an anger-provoking situation in someone else\u2019s hands. You can learn to take negative self-talk as an indication of rising tension within yourself. If you notice yourself having thoughts like the ones listed below, try to remember that changing your tone or behavior can prevent an unnecessarily negative inter- action with someone else:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 He did that on purpose.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 She wanted to hurt me.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 You deserved this.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 They never even asked me.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 She\u2019s being unreasonable.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 They think they\u2019re better than me.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 I\u2019ll show him.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 It\u2019s not fair!<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 He started it.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 She doesn\u2019t care about me. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 They can\u2019t be trusted.<\/span><\/p>\n

Behavioral Signs<\/span><\/p>\n

Behavioral signs of anger involve your tone of voice, posture, and other kinds of body language as well as direct and indirect actions like these:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Clenching your fists<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Pacing back and forth<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Slamming a door<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Kicking or throwing something<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Getting in someone\u2019s face<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Shoving, grabbing, or hitting<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Breaking something<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Calling someone names<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Giving someone a dirty look<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Giving someone the silent treatment<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Committing acts of road rage<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Drinking or using drugs<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Eating too much or too little<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Blaming others<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Making accusations<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Yelling<\/span><\/p>\n

Physical Signs<\/span><\/p>\n

Physical signs are often the first indications that you\u2019re becoming angry. If you can learn to recognize these signs as your responses to anger-provoking events, you can take steps to soothe yourself before your anger escalates to the point of losing control:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Faster heart rate<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Higher blood pressure<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Increased sweating<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Muscle tightness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Headache<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Nausea or vomiting<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Sleep problems<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Fatigue<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Shallow breathing<\/span><\/p>\n

Emotional Signs <\/span><\/p>\n

Before you feel anger, you always have a different, primary feeling. It\u2019s often a feeling that causes you to see yourself as wrong or vul- nerable in some way, but you may also just feel flat, apathetic, or depressed before you get angry. Getting angry may relieve that primary feeling, or it may continue alongside your anger. Either way, the discomfort of enduring primary feelings like these makes it easy for you to move quickly to anger:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Hostility<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Sadness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Guilt<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Jealousy<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Shock<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Worry<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Defensiveness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Suspiciousness<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Shame<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Apathy (lack of interest) <\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Panic<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Pessimism<\/span><\/p>\n

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When you\u2019re learning to manage your anger in a nonaggressive way, the first steps consist of recognizing how anger feels for you, and getting to know the situations that produce it. It\u2019s easier to take these first steps if you can become aware of your anger\u2019s symptoms. Cognitive Signs Cognitive <\/p>\n

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