{"id":8097,"date":"2019-09-16T18:07:00","date_gmt":"2019-09-16T23:07:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/increase-frustration-tolerance-fostering-forgiveness\/"},"modified":"2019-09-16T18:07:00","modified_gmt":"2019-09-16T23:07:00","slug":"increase-frustration-tolerance-fostering-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/increase-frustration-tolerance-fostering-forgiveness\/","title":{"rendered":"Increase Frustration Tolerance: Fostering Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"

Maybe someone accuses you of untrue things behind your back. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Maybe your business partner steals from you. Maybe a manager fails to uphold a promise. Maybe your partner has an affair. In cases involving a personal betrayal, keep in mind one important fact: Forgiveness is not the same thing as forgetting.<\/span><\/p>\n

Forgetting is repression and when something is repressed, it is just bottled up. And as long as those emotions, such as anger, are stuffed inside, forgiveness remains impossible. Forgiveness is a powerful concept, attracting the attention of the world\u2019s great religions. \u201cLove thy neighbor, as thyself.\u201d \u201cBe kind to them that abuse you.\u201d \u201cPut not out the mote in thy neighbor\u2019s eye, when you have yet to put out the beam in thine own.\u201d While some often think of religious teachings as limited to the ethical and moral realms, when you look at the power of forgiveness, you can recognize its value for anger management, as well. <\/span><\/p>\n

Forgiveness is not denying what someone did or condoning it. \u00a0It is not a matter of right and wrong. Forgiveness it is the ability to let go of your feelings about a person or event, so you can move on with your life. Their negative behavior caused you pain, and you are making the choice to let your anger and pain go. \u00a0It is for your benefit, not theirs. That\u2019s because forgiveness is healthier than holding a grudge. Why? Because the bitterness of a grudge works like venom that poisons your life and doesn\u2019t hurt anyone but yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Seeking revenge or wishing harm to another depletes your energy and prevents your pain from healing. By increasing your tolerance, you can learn more about the world, discover new opportunities to grow and stay healthy. Forgiveness allows you to let go of the past, while you continue to live effectively in the present.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some choices you can make to foster forgiveness:<\/div>\n
1. Identify the hurt and pain (what someone just said or did) as antagonism because that\u2019s what it is. It was not said or done for you, its serves their own agenda.<\/div>\n
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2. Put your hurt and pain in its proper perspective \u2013 they made an immature, childish statement or action. It does not deserve the attention and energy you are giving it.<\/div>\n
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3. Are you going to let your hurt determine your response or will you choose to use your adult judgment? Are you going to let your anger control you or are you going to manage it?<\/div>\n
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4. Identify that this is an opportunity to allow others to be responsible for themselves.<\/div>\n
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5. Muster up the courage to take the risk of doing something new. You can choose to say, \u201cI don\u2019t know what you are trying to accomplish.\u201d or \u201cWhat are you trying to achieve?\u201d You are not attacking. You are telling the truth. When you say, \u201cI hear what you\u2019re saying,\u201d or \u201cI never thought of that.\u201d you are not saying that they are correct in the facts, merely that you heard what they said.<\/div>\n
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Maybe someone accuses you of untrue things behind your back. Maybe your business partner steals from you. Maybe a manager fails to uphold a promise. Maybe your partner has an affair. In cases involving a personal betrayal, keep in mind one important fact: Forgiveness is not the same thing as <\/p>\n

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