{"id":8160,"date":"2019-11-05T21:47:14","date_gmt":"2019-11-06T02:47:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/anger-management-unhealthy-and-healthy-coping-skills\/"},"modified":"2019-11-05T21:47:14","modified_gmt":"2019-11-06T02:47:14","slug":"anger-management-unhealthy-and-healthy-coping-skills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/anger-management-unhealthy-and-healthy-coping-skills\/","title":{"rendered":"Anger Management: Unhealthy and Healthy Coping Skills"},"content":{"rendered":"

When we do not understand how to effectively deal with anger, we often choose coping methods that are harmful.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Here are some unhealthy ways of coping with anger:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Putting anger down. We deny anger or repress it. Some of us like to keep our \u201cnice person\u201d image and not make waves. Perhaps we say to ourselves that the situation is not important, and we swallow our anger.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Putting anger off. We think we can put the situation off, not get angry, and deal with it later.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Transferring anger. We are nice to people who make us angry, but we are hateful to those who love us. For example, a man\u2019s boss criticizes him at work, but the man takes his anger out on his child instead of expressing his anger to his boss. Or a man whose first wife cheated on him feels a rush of jealous anger toward his new wife when she says, \u201cI might be late get- ting home tonight.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Deadening feelings. People who can\u2019t cope with their anger and are afraid to express it often choose not to feel any emotions at all. Their rea- soning is that if they don\u2019t feel anything, then they can\u2019t be hurt. This is a very dangerous method because it puts them out of touch with their emo- tional reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2022 Staying in control. Some people think that they must always be in con- trol of a situation. They see anger as weakness and unthinkable loss\u00a0<\/span>of control.<\/p>\n

Next time you are feeling a surge of anger, try one of these healthy coping techniques:<\/span><\/p>\n

Take care of yourself. Get enough rest and eat regularly. If you are irritable or tense from lack of sleep or if you are not eating correctly, you will have less ability to deal with a stressful situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Make as many daily decisions as possible. This will give you a feeling of control over your life. Know your limits. If the problem is beyond your control and cannot be changed, don\u2019t fight the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Practice relaxation and meditation. Create a quiet scene. You can\u2019t always run away, but you can hold a vision in your mind \u2013 a quiet scene or walking along the beach can temporarily take you out of the turmoil of a stressful situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take one thing at a time. For people under stress, an ordinary workload can sometimes seem unbearable. The load looks so great that it becomes painful to tackle any part of it. When this happens, remember that it is a temporary condition and that you can work your way out of it . . . one step at a time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Allow time for a task. This will help reduce some of your self-imposed time pressure. If you normally plan half an hour to get a job done by rushing through it, schedule forty-five minutes or an hour so you can do the job more deliberately and thoughtfully. This can only improve your quality of work. Give your best effort, but don\u2019t take yourself to task of you can\u2019t achieve the impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When we do not understand how to effectively deal with anger, we often choose coping methods that are harmful. Here are some unhealthy ways of coping with anger: \u2022 Putting anger down. We deny anger or repress it. Some of us like to keep our \u201cnice person\u201d image and not <\/p>\n

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