{"id":8472,"date":"2020-07-25T22:07:29","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T03:07:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/resolving-conflict\/"},"modified":"2020-07-25T22:07:29","modified_gmt":"2020-07-26T03:07:29","slug":"resolving-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/unitedresourceconnection.org\/goodyear-village-az-cdp\/resolving-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Resolving Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"
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If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won\u2019t be able to understand your own needs.<\/p>\n

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If you don\u2019t understand your deep-seated needs, you will have a hard time communicating with others and staying in touch with what is really troubling you. For example, couples often argue about petty differences\u2014the way she hangs the towels, the way he parts his hair\u2014rather than what is really bothering them.<\/p>\n

In personal relationships, a lack of understanding about differing needs can result in distance, arguments, and breakups. In workplace conflicts, differing needs are often at the heart of bitter disputes. When you can recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs and become willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate understanding, it opens pathways to creative problem solving, team building, and improved relationships. When you resolve conflict and disagreement quickly and painlessly, mutual trust will flourish.<\/p>\n

Successful conflict resolution depends on your ability to:<\/p>\n

\u00b7 Manage stress while remaining alert and calm. By staying calm, you can accurately read and interpret verbal and nonverbal communication.<\/p>\n

\u00b7 Control your emotions and behavior. When you\u2019re in control of your emotions, you can communicate your needs without threatening, frightening, or punishing others.<\/p>\n

\u00b7 Pay attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the spoken words of others.<\/p>\n

\u00b7 Be aware of and respectful of differences. By avoiding disrespectful words and actions, you can resolve the problem faster.<\/p>\n

Healthy and unhealthy ways of managing and resolving conflict<\/p>\n

Conflict triggers strong emotions and can lead to hurt feelings, disappointment, and discomfort. When handled in an unhealthy manner, it can cause irreparable rifts, resentments, and breakups. But when conflict is resolved in a healthy way, it increases our understanding of one another, builds trust, and strengthens our relationship bonds.<\/p>\n

Unhealthy responses to conflict are characterized by:<\/p>\n

\u00b7 An inability to recognize and respond to matters of great importance to the other person<\/p>\n

\u00b7 Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions<\/p>\n

\u00b7 The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment<\/p>\n

\u00b7 The expectation of bad outcomes<\/p>\n

\u00b7 The fear and avoidance of conflict<\/p>\n

Healthy responses to conflict are characterized by:<\/p>\n

\u00b7 The capacity to recognize and respond to important matters<\/p>\n

\u00b7 A readiness to forgive and forget<\/p>\n

\u00b7 The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing<\/p>\n

\u00b7 A belief that resolution can support the interests and needs of both parties<\/p>\n

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If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won\u2019t be able to understand your own needs. If you don\u2019t understand your deep-seated needs, you will have a hard time communicating with others and <\/p>\n

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