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Sheila was suffering from exhaustion. She was overworked at home and at her job. She knew that she was taking too much upon herself, but she could not help it. She had always been this way, super-responsible and unable to trust others \u2013 feeling compelled to do it all herself.<\/p>\n
She had finally reached her limits; and could not push herself anymore. She knew that going away for a rest would not solve anything. She would only start the whole thing over again when she got back.\u00a0 She came for counseling to find out how she got this way, and to relieve her anger at the world for doing this to her.<\/p>\n
<\/span><\/p>\n Therapist: \u201cWhen else have you felt this way?\u201d<\/p>\n Sheila: \u201cWhen I was in high school, I was \u00a0the director of the class play. The day before we were supposed to perform in front of the Drama Club, three people called me with excuses for not showing up. I was so frustrated that I threw myself on my bed and cried. My mother heard me crying and came in. She leaned over me and said, \u2018If that damn club is going to make you cry like that, I forbid you to go again.\u2019 She stomped out. I was amazed. I remember asking myself, \u2018How was that supposed to help?\u2019 I knew that I could never go to her with my problems. Her overreaction was worse than the problem! Then I had two problems!\u00a0 If my own mother won\u2019t help me, who will?\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Her anger at this betrayal never went away.\u00a0 It was down there waiting to erupt on the next occasion.\u00a0 She learned that on a deeper level, she was angry at herself for trusting her overwhelmed, inadequate parent in the first place!\u00a0 This anger didn\u2019t make sense to her.\u00a0 This is where we point out that anger doesn\u2019t have to make sense. Shelia learned to trust her own judgment\u00a0by doing what reality requires and trusting her judgment as good enough to take life as it comes. She was able to:<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch\u00a0herself trying to please others.\u00a0 (She doesn\u2019t know how they want to be pleased)<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch herself\u00a0 trying not to displease.\u00a0 (She can focus on what pleases herself)<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch\u00a0herself protecting others from consequences (They did not ask for\u00a0her help)<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch herself trying to prevent disaster. (She can live in the present, she can\u2019t predict the future)<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch\u00a0herself having high standards for self\/others. (She doesn\u2019t know what\u2019s best)<\/p>\n \u2013 Catch\u00a0herself trying to prove her worth to others. (Self worth comes from within)<\/p>\n Tired woman image<\/a> available from Shutterstock.<\/small><\/p>\n Visit Original Source<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sheila was suffering from exhaustion. She was overworked at home and at her job. She knew that she was taking too much upon herself, but she could not help it. She had always been this way, super-responsible and unable to trust others \u2013 feeling compelled to do it all herself. <\/p>\n Read More<\/a>
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\nIt arises out of the emotional memories that are formed from vivid events. Anger such as, \u201cI must have been stupid to expect my own mother to help me.\u00a0 I\u2019m angry at myself for asking her to help me in the first place.\u00a0 I am angry at myself for trusting her.\u00a0 I\u2019ll never make that mistake again.\u201d\u00a0 Once these submerged attitudes are brought into conscious awareness, her adult\u00a0judgment can put them in a realistic, manageable perspective.\u00a0 \u201cI wasn\u2019t stupid.\u00a0 I was just a little kid.\u00a0 It was an inconvenience, a disappointment for me and sad for my mother, but I can choose to let go of my anger now that I know what I\u2019m letting go of.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/span><\/div>
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