Anger is an instinctual emotional response from a real or imagined threat. Anger is painful and we need to get relief. We almost always feel something else first before we get angry: afraid, hopeless, hurt, disrespected, disappointed, or guilty. We use anger to protect/cover up these other vulnerable feelings. We
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Think of the last time you felt caught up in a distressing emotion. Your body may have felt tense, your mind may have been dwelling on the past or anticipating problems in the future and there is an intensity or urgency in the moment . Many have developed unhealthy strategies
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Mindfulness is a state of awareness. It is cultivated by systematically focusing attention on bodily sensations, emotions, thoughts, or the surrounding environment. Mindfulness can help you detach from emotional pain (e.g., anxiety, anger, sadness, self-harm). It is basically a way to distract yourself by focusing on something other than the
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I’m proud to announce that the Anger Management Workbook has now sold over 10,000 copies on Amazon and is now available on Audible. Are you ready to take control of your anger? The Anger Management Workbook for Men goes beyond why men get angry and helps you get to the root of
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We all have a running inner dialogue of thoughts. Sometime this inner self talk is pessimistic, critical or blaming. By attending to your inner self talk, you will notice critical thoughts intruding, and that’s ok. The aim of a mindful activity is to continually bring your attention back to the
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Mike and Joan were fighting about the mess in the kitchen. Mike perceived his wife’s criticisms as if they were attacks and he was defending himself against her. Joan felt threatened and was protecting herself against his defenses. She was feeling unappreciated and unloved. They were both repeating the behavior
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Some of my clients will say to me: “Why do I always end up drinking more than I wanted? I just don’t know.” “I wish I could change how I talk to my partner. We always seem to end up fighting. I just don’t know what to do.” “I can’t
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Newton’s third law of motion is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. For many, the opportunity to live without consequences would be wonderful. But of course, this not reality. Reality is constantly giving us feedback about our behavior: a phone call from the gas company that
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Humans are learning machines. From the day we are born and even before, our brains capture and encode our experiences. The mind is a web of connections with over a hundred billion cells that are crammed into three pounds of the most complex tissue in the universe. Our behavior can
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I have recently found myself thinking a lot about good intentions. Inherently, they seem positive, right? However, they have a deeper negative impact that many do not fully appreciate. Good intentions are nothing more then idyllic dreams masquerading as concrete goals. Good intentions are often things we say we want
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