Some of us feel terribly out of control when others are unable to “explain” events to our satisfaction. When we are unable to come up with an acceptable solution to a problem, we are often left focusing on who is at fault. It is like having an open wound. It
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When we feel badly about ourselves, we may imagine that we can relieve our pain by “proving” that we are superior. This is called overcompensation. The trouble is that it doesn’t work. We all want to be better than we are. We want to be smarter, happier, thinner, richer, wittier,
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Some people deal with their guilt by blaming others. We may deny our guilt because, very often, we are so full of guilt from the past that we cannot tolerate the addition of one more ounce in the present. We may be afraid that we will lash out, breakdown, or
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For some of us, happiness is not a given. We have to earn it. We have to work and struggle to prove we deserve it. Too many of us are working at it in an unhealthy way and wondering why our happiness is getting farther away instead of closer. The
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Anxiety is a completely normal physical response to protect ourself against a threat. It’s not ‘crazy’, ‘bitchy’, or controlling, and it is not a weakness to worry. There is a primitive part of the brain that’s geared toward driving our attention to threats. When it does, the body surges with
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Henry had come to town to be with his father, who was in failing health. He thought he’d stay a week or two and then return home. However, his father began opening up and engaging in deeper talks, something Henry never had when he was younger. Henry was getting insight
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Henry realized that he had not been in control all these years as he thought, he was just playing roles, wasting his life seeking approval. The game of tug-o-war was over, he was not going to pick up the rope and get dragged through the mud. Henry dropped the
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If we have a bad tooth, we go to the dentist; if our car breaks down, we go to the mechanic. Seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. We all need help from time to time and it’s a sign of strength and intelligence to know when to
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