If we have committed a crime, then it makes sense to feel guilty. Many of the rest of us wallow in guilt that we have not earned and do not deserve. Guilt is the perception that we have done something morally, legally, or ethically wrong. Many of us perceive ourselves
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“For me, it didn’t feel like mom was really dying, until I saw her dead.” ”I felt her hand. I touched her face. She had been dead for a few hours.” Guest blogger, Laura Brownstone, LCSW has been a grief therapist for over 15 years. Her mother passed over seven years
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Clare had a big fight with her boyfriend Tom. She wanted him to come to dinner with her passive aggressive, dysfunctional family. Tom, understandably, did not wish to subject himself to this torment. Tom’s own family was critical and demanding. He had few happy memories of his family growing up.
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One day a king decided to humble his most trusted servant. He said to him, “There is a certain ring that I want you to bring to me. I wish to give to the queen for her birthday, which gives you six months to find it.” “If it exists anywhere
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You can improve your communication skills by recognizing these four common mistakes. 1) We talk too much! When we talk about something that is sensitive, personal or difficult, we may talk around the subject. We may avoid being specific, trying to be polite, hoping the other person will somehow pick
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Therapist: “Besides angry, how else do you feel when people disrespect you?” Client: “Sad.” Therapist: “Where does that sadness come from?” Client: “It’s always been there.” Therapist: “What’s the worst part?” Client: “Like I don’t count, like I’m not important.” Therapist: “Like you were invisible? Some use anger to get
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(Therapist) “What has to happen before you can ask for help?” (Client) “I don’t know?” (Therapist) ”You have to trust the person you are asking.” (Client) “I don’t trust many people.” (Therapist)”What has to happen before you can trust people?” (Client) “They have to earn my trust.” (Therapist) “Or you
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Stereotypically, women are thought of as emotional and men as logical, but biology says this is false. Scientists have discovered that men have a larger part of their brain devoted to emotional responses and a smaller region for logical thinking than women. This makes sense if you consider the energy
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Having a connection is like cooking a meal. All the parts combine to create something new and distinct. No different then all the flavors that make meal, all the traits two people share, combine to build a connection. For example, even if you don’t like eggs, you may enjoy cake.
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When we understand our anger, we understand ourselves. When something happens in the present that reminds us of feelings from the past, our emotions become exaggerated and we get angrier then the reality of the current situation requires. Our anger from the past compounds the feelings in the present and
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