Many people who have to live or work with the chronically angry feel unprepared to cope with their titanic temper tantrums. When we don’t know what to do when faced with anger, we have an unfortunate tendency to make up our own interventions. This DIY approach to cope with someone’s monumental rage is usually
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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger August 5, 2020
One day a wise and respected king decided to humble his son, whom he saw as arrogant and unfit to take over the thrown. The king said to his son the prince, “My son, there is a certain ring that I want you to bring to me. I wish to
Read More Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger July 2, 2020
Many of my clients seek therapy because they cannot accept that some things in life cannot be changed:”I wish I hadn’t been abused in childhood”; “I wish my spouse was different”; “I wish these things weren’t happening to me.” When you desire to control the uncontrollable, you set yourself up
Read More Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger May 13, 2020
When we find the causes of our problems, we don’t find “sick” inner parts; we find old assumptions, old beliefs, old expectations, old commitments, or old goals that we now see as limited. We feel excited about finally finding the inner sources of our problems, and we want to change
Read More Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger January 31, 2020
Stress is a big, broad term. It can come in many shapes and stripes. Many of the stressors that Patrice Douglas’s clients experience revolve around work and family. They feel “overwhelmed, unappreciated, and stuck.” Psychotherapist Stephanie Dobbin, LMFT, CGP, works with healthcare professionals, who frequently feel stressed about their jobs:
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Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger May 6, 2019
When you’re doing the same things day in and day out, when your to-do list is a mile long, when it feels like there isn’t a spare minute, it’s easy for every day to blend into the next, and become a blur of work, chores, and email. It’s easy to
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger May 2, 2019
Healthy relationships shouldn’t take much work. And if they do, it’s time to go our separate ways. We must be compatible. If we need therapy, our relationship is already doomed. My partner is supposed to know what I want, and what I need. Healthy couples never argue, because fighting ruins
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger April 3, 2019
Saying no to someone makes you very uncomfortable. So you don’t. You’re always available to everyone. In fact, you tend to put others’ needs above your own. Without hesitation. You rarely express a differing opinion (even when you clearly disagree). You apologize. A lot. You hate when someone is upset
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger March 4, 2019
The way you see something can easily keep you stuck and stressed—or it can free you. In other words, your perspective is powerful in creating the life you want to live—or not. For instance, if you think you’ll never find a fulfilling job, you’ll feel demoralized, and you won’t do
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger February 26, 2019
You walk into your home, or maybe into a certain room. You look around, scanning the entire space, and suddenly feel so heavy. You feel tense and tired. You feel powerless and helpless. You feel disappointed in yourself. Your eyes immediately zero in on the piles of random paperwork, and
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger February 10, 2019