4 Reasons We Get Angry

There are four reasons we get angry: • 1  Seeking revenge. We feel hurt, so we use anger to get even and make things fair.  • 2  Preventing disaster. We feel worried, so we use anger to attack others to get control.  • 3  Pushing others away. We feel sad,

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018

Egocentric Guilt

Many of us perceive ourself as being at the center of the world. This attitude is called egocentrism. As a consequence of this naive, self-centered perspective, we mistakenly conclude that we are somehow responsible for everything that happens in the world. We feel accountable for all the bad things that happen

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018

The Logic Of Guilt

Some of us feel terribly out of control when others are unable to “explain” events to our satisfaction.  When we are unable to come up with an acceptable solution to a problem, we are often left focusing on who is at fault.  It is like having an open wound.  It

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018

Anxiety: We Worry Because We Care

Anxiety is a completely normal physical response to protect ourself against a threat.  It’s not ‘crazy’, ‘bitchy’, or controlling, and it is not a weakness to worry. There is a primitive part of the brain that’s geared toward driving our attention to threats. When it does, the body surges with

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018

Taking Control: Part 1

Henry had come to town to be with his father, who was in failing health.  He thought he’d stay a week or two and then return home.  However, his father began opening up and engaging in deeper talks, something Henry never had when he was younger. Henry was getting insight

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018

Taking Control: Part 2

Henry realized that he had not been in control all these years as he thought, he was just playing roles, wasting his life seeking approval.   The game of tug-o-war was over, he was not going to pick up the rope and get dragged through the mud. Henry dropped the

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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger June 22, 2018