A majority of Americans say rudeness — particularly behind the wheel, on cell phones and in customer service — is the biggest trigger to their anger. Here is where we need to use anger management to counterbalance the hostile, impulsive, infantile insistence on getting what we want, when we want it.
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Normally, things run smooth and our emotions and thoughts work in harmony towards a common goal. However under situations of stress, unresolved anger, private sorrow, or paralyzing fear may flood our thoughts. We can make efforts to solve the mystery of where the intensity of our emotions comes from by getting
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Therapist: “You say you want a relationship with your mother. Well, you’ve got one, but it’s destructive. You cannot begin a constructive relationship with her until you put an end to this negative one. It sounds like you are feeling helpless and discouraged. I’m willing to guess she expects you
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12 Weight Loss Mantras 1) Your body will resist permanent weight loss 2) Biology is not destiny 3) Consistency and commitment are the keys to weight loss 4) There are three stages of success: Honeymoon Frustration Acceptance 5) Your hunger can be kept quite on very little fat 6) If
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When your anger is triggered, try the following interventions: 1: “Ride It Out.” This is not the same as “ignoring.” You are consciously choosing to give their argument all the attention it so richly deserves, namely none. You just appear to be paying attention. Nodding your head would be a
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Some of my clients will say to me: “Why do I always end up drinking more than I wanted? I just don’t know.” “I wish I could change how I talk to my partner. We always seem to end up fighting. I just don’t know what to do.” “I can’t
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Newton’s third law of motion is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. For many, the opportunity to live without consequences would be wonderful. But of course, this not reality. Reality is constantly giving us feedback about our behavior: a phone call from the gas company that
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Humans are learning machines. From the day we are born and even before, our brains capture and encode our experiences. The mind is a web of connections with over a hundred billion cells that are crammed into three pounds of the most complex tissue in the universe. Our behavior can
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I have recently found myself thinking a lot about good intentions. Inherently, they seem positive, right? However, they have a deeper negative impact that many do not fully appreciate. Good intentions are nothing more then idyllic dreams masquerading as concrete goals. Good intentions are often things we say we want
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You may have heard that experience is the best teacher, but like any class there are always students who learn very little. Just having an experience doesn’t guarantee the quality or quantity of learning that may be obtained. Aldous Huxley once said, “Experience is what happens to you, it is
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