When your anger is triggered, try the following interventions: 1: “Ride It Out.” This is not the same as “ignoring.” You are consciously choosing to give their argument all the attention it so richly deserves, namely none. You just appear to be paying attention. Nodding your head would be a
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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger January 4, 2019
Some of my clients will say to me: “Why do I always end up drinking more than I wanted? I just don’t know.” “I wish I could change how I talk to my partner. We always seem to end up fighting. I just don’t know what to do.” “I can’t
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Humans are learning machines. From the day we are born and even before, our brains capture and encode our experiences. The mind is a web of connections with over a hundred billion cells that are crammed into three pounds of the most complex tissue in the universe. Our behavior can
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Newton’s third law of motion is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. For many, the opportunity to live without consequences would be wonderful. But of course, this not reality. Reality is constantly giving us feedback about our behavior: a phone call from the gas company that
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I have recently found myself thinking a lot about good intentions. Inherently, they seem positive, right? However, they have a deeper negative impact that many do not fully appreciate. Good intentions are nothing more then idyllic dreams masquerading as concrete goals. Good intentions are often things we say we want
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You may have heard that experience is the best teacher, but like any class there are always students who learn very little. Just having an experience doesn’t guarantee the quality or quantity of learning that may be obtained. Aldous Huxley once said, “Experience is what happens to you, it is
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One day a king decided to humble his most trusted servant. He said to him, “There is a certain ring that I want you to bring to me. I wish to give to the queen for her birthday, which gives you six months to find it.” “If it exists anywhere
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33,000 lives end by guns each year in the United States. Two-thirds of gun deaths in the United States every year are suicides. The next-largest set of gun deaths — 1 in 5 — were young men aged 15 to 34, killed in homicides. These men were most likely to
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There was once a small community of Buddhist monks. The oldest and wisest of the monks was the Abbot who came from a long line of abbots. However, in the monastery there was a novice, the youngest of the monks, and the first of his family to enter the monastic life.
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We know that our partners aren’t mind readers, and it’s best to be clear with our communication. But whether we’re asking for help around the house, reminding our spouse about an unfinished task or requesting some space when we’re sad, it can sound like we’re nagging or criticizing them. Of
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