Try looking at anger in terms of the following 5 reasons for angry behaviors: 1 Seeking revenge. You feel hurt, so you want to get even and make things fair. 2 Preventing disaster. You feel helpless, so you want to take control. 3 Pushing others away. You feel discouraged, so
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Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger May 23, 2019
As parents, we are probably all familiar with being provoked into a blood vessel-popping rage. We are instantly overwhelmed and any resolution we might have made to stay calm is eradicated. That’s because kids are amazingly good at refining behaviors that they can turn to when they’re disappointed or angry,
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Managing your anger means not saying or doing things you’ll later regret. It means calming yourself, assessing situations with a cool head, and taking sensible actions. It basically involves making choices around four components of your behavior: 1 Expressing yourself 2 Taking care of yourself 3 Building up your tolerance
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Forgiveness is the ability to let go of the past in order to move forward. Letting go of old wounds is the antidote to hurtful experiences and can dramatically improve your mood in the present. You may imagine that forgiveness is arrived at through a logical, rational sorting-out process. But
Read More Shared by Aaron Karmin, LCPC, Contributing Blogger May 23, 2019
Stress is a big, broad term. It can come in many shapes and stripes. Many of the stressors that Patrice Douglas’s clients experience revolve around work and family. They feel “overwhelmed, unappreciated, and stuck.” Psychotherapist Stephanie Dobbin, LMFT, CGP, works with healthcare professionals, who frequently feel stressed about their jobs:
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Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger May 6, 2019
We show up for our loved ones all the time in all kinds of ways. We bring sick friends soup and grieving friends casseroles. We create safe spaces for loved ones to share their most tender thoughts and feelings. We attend weddings and funerals. We listen. We try to be
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger May 4, 2019
When you’re doing the same things day in and day out, when your to-do list is a mile long, when it feels like there isn’t a spare minute, it’s easy for every day to blend into the next, and become a blur of work, chores, and email. It’s easy to
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger May 2, 2019
Each of us has preconceived notions about everything—beliefs that are shaped by our society, pop culture, and the people closest to us. And therapy is no exception. In fact, because there’s so little information on therapy, we tend to hold a lot of beliefs about what we think goes on.
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger April 26, 2019
Anger is a message from the body. It’s the body’s response to something it perceives as threatening. You may not even be consciously aware of the threat, but your body alerts you to the danger it perceives, and it does this so you can step in and take urgent action
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Healthy relationships shouldn’t take much work. And if they do, it’s time to go our separate ways. We must be compatible. If we need therapy, our relationship is already doomed. My partner is supposed to know what I want, and what I need. Healthy couples never argue, because fighting ruins
Read More Shared by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., Contributing Blogger April 3, 2019